Questions You May Be Asking Yourself 
Adoption is a courageous and unselfish decision because you are putting your child’s needs above your own.
With adoption, you are making a plan for your child’s future, not abandoning or giving away the child.
If you are not financially, emotionally, and physically prepared to parent a child, then making an adoption plan is a loving and responsible decision.
Adoption is not giving your child away or pushing your responsibility off on someone else, it is assuming the responsibility of making a plan to ensure that your child will be taken of.
“Can I be a single parent?”
Were you raised in a single parent household? What are the pros and cons?
How would single parenting affect your future goals?
How can single parenting affect the child?
“Will my child hate me?”
You are encouraged to write a letter to your child telling your child that you love him or her and possibly explaining in your own words why you chose to make an adoption plan. Some birth mothers send pictures and make memory books/boxes. These items are given to the adoptive parents and they will be treasured by your child. Your adoption counselor can also help you put your feelings into words.
If your desire, you can choose and meet the adoptive parents for your child. You can directly express your love and feelings for this child with adoptive parents and they can tell this child all about you and your love, strength and courage.
Our adoptive parents admire your strength and courage and their love and respect for you will be passed on to your child.
“What if my family and friends don’t want me to make an adoption plan?”
Making an adoption plan or choosing to parent this child is YOUR decision and you need to make the decision that is best for you and your child.
Family and friends may influence how you feel, but the 24 hour a day responsibility of this child’s daily care and welfare is left up to you, not your family and friends. Will your family and friends help you to care for the child for the next 18 years?
“What if I am hoping to have a relationship with the father of the baby?”
What is the status of your relationship with him now?
Has he been emotionally and financially helpful to you during your pregnancy?
Does he have other children? Does he have a relationship where he financially and emotionally supports these children? Click here for more information on birth fathers.
“What if my baby ends up in a bad home, like the ones I see on TV?”
Adoptive parents are closely evaluated and educated during the home study process. They have criminal, sexual, and child abuse/neglect background screens conducted as part of their home study assessment.
You have the opportunity to look through prospective adoptive family profile books and select the adoptive family that you want to adopt your child. This will allow you to see what the child’s home and family will be like.
You can meet the adoptive family and get a sense of who they are from face to face contact.
"What if I am wanting this child to love and I am looking for this child to love me back?”
Love is important, however it takes more than love to meet a child’s needs. Needing and expecting a child to fulfill your needs of being loved places a lot of responsibility on a child.
“What if I gave my baby away, and it hurt too much and I always regret it?”
There is a difference between grief and regret.
Adoption is not the only option that has the potential of hurting you? There are consequences to all of your options.
Just because something hurts does not mean it is not the right thing to do. Sometimes doing the right thing is the hardest and most painful decisions to make.
If you desired, you could to talk to someone that has already made an adoption plan for their child and you could ask her how feels.
“How could I ever give my baby away?”
Adoption is a courageous and unselfish decision because you are putting your child’s needs above your own.
With adoption, you are making a plan for your child’s future, not abandoning or giving away the child.
If you are not financially, emotionally, and physically prepared to parent a child, then making an adoption plan is a loving and responsible decision.
Adoption is not giving your child away or pushing your responsibility off on someone else, it is assuming the responsibility of making a plan to ensure that your child will be taken of.
“Can I be a single parent?”
Were you raised in a single parent household? What are the pros and cons?
How would single parenting affect your future goals?
How can single parenting affect the child?
“Will my child hate me?”
You are encouraged to write a letter to your child telling your child that you love him or her and possibly explaining in your own words why you chose to make an adoption plan. Some birth mothers send pictures and make memory books/boxes. These items are given to the adoptive parents and they will be treasured by your child. Your adoption counselor can also help you put your feelings into words.
If your desire, you can choose and meet the adoptive parents for your child. You can directly express your love and feelings for this child with adoptive parents and they can tell this child all about you and your love, strength and courage.
Our adoptive parents admire your strength and courage and their love and respect for you will be passed on to your child.
“What if my family and friends don’t want me to make an adoption plan?”
Making an adoption plan or choosing to parent this child is YOUR decision and you need to make the decision that is best for you and your child.
Family and friends may influence how you feel, but the 24 hour a day responsibility of this child’s daily care and welfare is left up to you, not your family and friends. Will your family and friends help you to care for the child for the next 18 years?
“What if I am hoping to have a relationship with the father of the baby?”
What is the status of your relationship with him now?
Has he been emotionally and financially helpful to you during your pregnancy?
Does he have other children? Does he have a relationship where he financially and emotionally supports these children? Click here for more information on birth fathers.
“What if my baby ends up in a bad home, like the ones I see on TV?”
Adoptive parents are closely evaluated and educated during the home study process. They have criminal, sexual, and child abuse/neglect background screens conducted as part of their home study assessment.
You have the opportunity to look through prospective adoptive family profile books and select the adoptive family that you want to adopt your child. This will allow you to see what the child’s home and family will be like.
You can meet the adoptive family and get a sense of who they are from face to face contact.
"What if I am wanting this child to love and I am looking for this child to love me back?”
Love is important, however it takes more than love to meet a child’s needs. Needing and expecting a child to fulfill your needs of being loved places a lot of responsibility on a child.
“What if I gave my baby away, and it hurt too much and I always regret it?”
There is a difference between grief and regret.
Adoption is not the only option that has the potential of hurting you? There are consequences to all of your options.
Just because something hurts does not mean it is not the right thing to do. Sometimes doing the right thing is the hardest and most painful decisions to make.
If you desired, you could to talk to someone that has already made an adoption plan for their child and you could ask her how feels.